A Different Look at Love by Donna Carlson

A Different Look At Love

I am surprised when I find myself angry at someone. After many years of studying, clearing my space, expanding my non-judgment and unconditional love, I can still get really angry. Then I can get angry at myself for such behavior.

Does that sound familiar? What can you or I do to get at the root of this anger that is an expression of non-love toward another person and toward ourselves? We can start by applying what we have learned. We often simply gather information: reading books or attending workshops. We are excited to find the truth and value in it. Some immediate changes may occur, but then we forget or put off integrating new found wisdom into our lives. Another way that we learn is to pay attention to the patterns in our lives. If we are often angry (unhappy, broke), we can realize there is a pattern; and, once found, that pattern can be changed. Deciding I had experienced entirely enough of the destructive effects of anger, I was ready to find that pattern and change it.

One way to make a change is by stopping any negative thought process (this is a pattern) as soon as you recognize you're doing it. Saying "NEXT!" (per Wayne Dyer and Deepak Chopra) refers to simply moving on to another, more positive thought. In using this method, I found that I needed a "stand-by" thought - one that I had ready to slip quickly into my thought processes (there is very little space between negative thoughts).

I started with something easy to remember. "I am happier and healthier every day." I used it as a mantra, saying it over and over to take the place of the negative thoughts. Through discipline, I realized I could catch the negative thoughts sooner, which gives them less importance and less time to continue the cycle of creating more negativity. In a particular situation (depressing and difficult for me to understand), I continued this "next thought mantra" for weeks. I started catching the negative thoughts sooner and sooner.

One day I became aware of the energy that was forming my negative thought, and quickly slipped in my positive one before the first negative thought started. What an exciting experience! We are so capable yet so often believe that we can't change anything! I learned another method in my clairvoyant training.

Here I accomplished healing work called "deprogramming." It's done by finding the energy of an unwanted program (pattern) and erasing it, thereby giving a person the ability to create a new, more positive pattern. Two years ago, I studied Psychotronics with Kay Haugen. I learned some outstanding ways to discipline my thoughts and create remarkable new things in my life. In one of the processes, I realized Kay had found another way to do the same energy deprogramming.

When I looked at her process clairvoyantly, I saw it achieves the same result - old pattern gone and new pattern in place. Here's the way I use her process. First, I acknowledge my pattern (this addresses the programmed energy); then I acknowledge that it is in "past time" (it's over and done with, no longer has a hold on me); and, finally, I create the new pattern by affirming the new truth for me.

I started with "In the past I have experienced a lack of money, but now money flows to me easily and effortlessly, and I receive it with joy and thanksgiving." I followed Kay's suggestion of taking a 30 minute walk and constantly repeating the phrase. I accepted that as I spoke these words out loud, the universe was already creating the desired results for me. It works! I share all of this with you because it works, and because this is how I dealt with my anger.

I needed that walk to let off the steam, so I figured I could help it along with this phrase, "In the past I have been angry with Tom, but now I am free of all anger toward Tom."

Shortly into the walk, I decided to go for all the people I've ever been angry with. "In the past I have been angry at people, but now I am free of all anger, resentment and judgment." Less than half way into my 30 minute walk, I experienced a shift in the energy.

A light bulb flashed. I saw that I became angry when someone did not respond the way I wanted or expected. I had the audacity to expect someone to be something other than what they really are! I had to laugh at the way I had been for 49 years and hope that more people figure that out long before I did. I changed the phrase once again, this time to acknowledge that, "In the past I had expectations of others, but now I enjoy and LOVE the individuality of people, and I bring more kind, supportive, and LOVING people into my life."

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